It’s an interesting and well observed phenomena that pregnancy and raising children is something of a free-for-all in terms of commenting on other people’s choices and opinions.
It would be ill advised and unexpected for me to walk up to a stranger in the street and berate them for their decisions about giving their 2 year old a big mac and sugary drink, whilst it’s entirely expected and “normal” for people to make comments openly to pregnant women about their every day decisions.
When you are pregnant there are lots of things you are advised not to do- in particular the list of food on the NHS website to avoid during pregnancy. Most of it is relatively easy, but the list changes frequently and it is hard to keep up. I spent about 3 months avoiding smoked salmon when I really fancied it just because I thought it was off the list! I know people who have smoked, drunk and drowned themselves in blue cheese during their pregnancies and I also know women who have been terrified of anything and everything (including many who have got rid of pets and denied themselves a daily cup of tea).
I’d like to think I’m safely in the middle for this one- whilst I am trying to keep abreast of The List and where I can in every day life avoid those things I should avoid, I haven’t been devoid of all fun! I’m allowing myself the odd glass of wine now and then, but avoid unpasturised and blue cheese 99% of the time. I’m also trying not to eat soft boiled eggs, pate and uncooked meat. I do drink tea, but not excessively and happy to drink decaf tea instead. I went to a fantastic steak restaurant at the weekend with the girls and had my meat much better cooked than I would have wanted to, but a risk worth avoiding.
This risk factor is all about Listeria (bar caffeine and alcohol), although interestingly one of the highest risk food items for listeria is from cold or reheated rice, which doesn’t feature anywhere on the NHS list. The other major risk stated during
Life is full of risk- in the home, outside the home…. and life is all about managing risk. I plan to still ride my bike (although I’m not able to complete the same mileage I once was) as long as I am comfortable and able to, and I will enjoy a glass of champagne at the weddings I am attending this year. I will no doubt be judged for this, but I am comfortable with my decisions.
It’s amazing what people find to comment on though, from choices whether or not to have a drink or a slice of unpasturised cheese, to how many children we plan to have, our decision to find out the babie’s gender (we’re not!), whether we use a dummy or breast feed…..
In other news we’ve had two wonderful surprise gifts from strangers!
A friend of my mothers- from her wood carving class has sent us over a gorgeous little Beatrix Potter Jeremy Fisher toy, and then today our lovely neighbour Iris brought around a beautiful hand knitted blanket for the baby, which was made by her 88 year old sister in law who lives in Cumbria! Thank you Sue and thank you Olive!
Niece Sophie enjoying a chew on Jeremy Fisher