Monthly Archives: May 2013



To take my mind of the evil that is acid reflux, I’m utterly chuffed that I finally managed to get a video of the alien moving inside my tummy baby kicking. And it’s a stunner!

Sadly wordpress doesn’t support iframe videos, but I will try to upload to youtube and link from there if I can. Meanwhile, click the link for a video!

That’s not a kick, it’s a star jump!

(also, ouch)




It’s an interesting and well observed phenomena that pregnancy and raising children is something of a free-for-all in terms of commenting on other people’s choices and opinions.

It would be ill advised and unexpected for me to walk up to a stranger in the street and berate them for their decisions about giving their 2 year old a big mac and sugary drink, whilst it’s entirely expected and “normal” for people to make comments openly to pregnant women about their every day decisions.

When you are pregnant there are lots of things you are advised not to do- in particular the list of food on the NHS website to avoid during pregnancy. Most of it is relatively easy, but the list changes frequently and it is hard to keep up. I spent about 3 months avoiding smoked salmon when I really fancied it just because I thought it was off the list! I know people who have smoked, drunk and drowned themselves in blue cheese during their pregnancies and I also know women who have been terrified of anything and everything (including many who have got rid of pets and denied themselves a daily cup of tea).

I’d like to think I’m safely in the middle for this one- whilst I am trying to keep abreast of The List and where I can in every day life avoid those things I should avoid, I haven’t been devoid of all fun! I’m allowing myself the odd glass of wine now and then, but avoid unpasturised and blue cheese 99% of the time. I’m also trying not to eat soft boiled eggs, pate and uncooked meat. I do drink tea, but not excessively and happy to drink decaf tea instead. I went to a fantastic steak restaurant at the weekend with the girls and had my meat much better cooked than I would have wanted to, but a risk worth avoiding.

This risk factor is all about Listeria (bar caffeine and alcohol), although interestingly one of the highest risk food items for listeria is from cold or reheated rice, which doesn’t feature anywhere on the NHS list. The other major risk stated during

Life is full of risk- in the home, outside the home…. and life is all about managing risk. I plan to still ride my bike (although I’m not able to complete the same mileage I once was) as long as I am comfortable and able to, and I will enjoy a glass of champagne at the weddings I am attending this year. I will no doubt be judged for this, but I am comfortable with my decisions.

It’s amazing what people find to comment on though, from choices whether or not to have a drink or a slice of unpasturised cheese, to how many children we plan to have, our decision to find out the babie’s gender (we’re not!), whether we use a dummy or breast feed…..

In other news we’ve had two wonderful surprise gifts from strangers!
A friend of my mothers- from her wood carving class has sent us over a gorgeous little Beatrix Potter Jeremy Fisher toy, and then today our lovely neighbour Iris brought around a beautiful hand knitted blanket for the baby, which was made by her 88 year old sister in law who lives in Cumbria! Thank you Sue and thank you Olive!

Niece Sophie enjoying a chew on Jeremy Fisher

New blanket.

23 weeks


So far past half way now- how scary!

I feel like my previous second trimester energy is starting to wane! Dammit! I was enjoying being able to do normal things and get on with life, so I’m worried I’ll have to slow down again now.

After weddings and hen parties and visitors, life does quieten down a little over the next few weeks and I can concentrate on getting baby things ready, staying fit and actually getting my head around antenatal classes and things like that.

I have been a bit annoyed that when I’ve tried to look at NHS info here on my local hospitals website the info is very sketchy. We MUST book onto courses… but there’s no information about how to book!

That’s something to ask the midwife about at my 24 week appointment. There’s some other things too, but I must write them down as I keep forgetting!

I’m getting worried- not about the birth but about not being pregnant! I’m now enjoying it. I love being kicked (even when it hurts and keeps me awake), I love my silly round football-under-the-tshirt bump and the new focus in my life it’s given me. I know the baby will hold the focus though!

This week I got to help a friend with a ridiculously large poohsplosion. Her 4 week old baby Grace, whilst feeding, did three massive huge farts in a row, the third of which turned into what I can only describe as stinky liquid gold which was running out of her nappy and down her white tights! Ooops. I was happy to dive in and help, so I think I earnt my stripes. Poor Grace had to be bathed it was so messy! Poor love, but I hope she slept better having got it all out!

Buy buy baby


With the imminent arrival of gorgeous niece and Aunty S tomorrow, we got our backsides in gear this morning and did our first actual proper shop of baby things. In fairness we did an Ocado order recently to pick up nappies, wipes, cream, forumla etc, but this was the first time we’ve been on a joint venture into Mothercare with a list of *things*. It was just the last few essentials (i.e what good is a cot without sheets and a blanket?!), but it does make everything feel more complete.

One of the clearest bits of advice I’ve been given is YOU CAN NEVER HAVE TOO MANY MUSLINS. I’m sure if we start with 24….. we’ll be ok! We also picked up a second hand baby bath for £3 today!

The house is slowly being taken over with baby things. The baby room (for some reason I hate the word “nursery”) is looking much more finished with this adorable fleece blanket on sale in Mothercare:

Baby has also received it’s first proper pressie from the lovely A&E (as I call them):

And there’s other evidence spilled around the house….

The last picture is my exciting accidental purchase at a summer fayre I was attending. On my way out, I suddenly saw a fully pram “system” in great condition for £70. Bargain! Sadly the online reviews show a less-than sturdy frame, but fingers crossed we’ll be ok! It’s a Hauck Malibu for anyone interested.

Tonight I’m going to the final part of the exciting big wedding we’ve been attending. I’m absolutely dressing the bump to the nines, and it’s going to be absolutely OUT THERE. Should be fun!

Better go and start getting ready!



A boring title, my humble apologies!

I think I forgot to post about my 20 week scan- that went well! Sadly the sonographer was not nearly as friendly as the last one. Although I appreciate that they have a hard job to do (measuring and assessing a wriggly baby inside a womans body!) with potentially difficult news to share with the parents-to-be, she was entirely lacking in a single smile for us, making it a very nerve-racking experience.

Baby looked great. I think it was mostly asleep- and was lying head down (making it very hard to measure). It will still wriggling and kicking a little as the sonographer prodded it.

We found out that baby has:
-bigger than average head (noooooooo!)
-bigger than average tummy circumference (hehe)
-shorter than average legs (huh? Mummalicious and Dadmeister General are 5ft 10 and 6ft respectively!)

But having said that it’s exactly on track for a perfect average birth weight, and baby has a further 20 weeks to average out. So I’m now well over half way!

Things I’ve been thinking about:
-Parenting/ Antenatal classes
I’ve decided not to sign up to NCT for a number of reasons including the ridiculous cost (over £250 locally) and the fact that the market research (asking my friends) I did showedt that the only people who felt like they got anything out of it were those who didn’t realy know anyone in the area with children or were quite shy. I’ve been told that as I’m gobby I won’t have any problems in making friends!

I’ve been really ramping this back up whilst I feel able to. I have energy and am physically able to do stuff now, so why not. I went on a long rainy walk (9 miles) last weekend, and I’ve finally managed to find a local Pregnancy Yoga class which is a short cycle from home (I start in June). I’ll hopefully make some mummy to be friends there.

-Work and maternity leave
As I work for a charity, we are only able to offer statutory maternity pay to staff (which I don’t resent… I only resent people who complain about how hard their lives are when they have AMAZING maternity packages). I’ve got to use my holiday and maternity leave cleverly so get the most out of it. Any holidya we don’t use, we are paid for in December’s pay packet, so I intend to use half my remaining holiday for the run up to maternity leave and then I will be paid for any left over which will boost my maternity pay in December.

Having grown again, there is pretty much no way in which I can get away with not looking pregnant! I also really need clothes with a high lycra content or those designed specifically for maternity wear. I’ve been attending (with joy) different parts of a big Asian wedding this week (one more to go) and so far have been eBaying desperately for traditional Asian dress that I can fit a bump into! I’ve had so many lovely compliments, I might wear Asian clothes more regularly! So colourful and comfortable and beautiful!

With Dadmeister General

Photobombed by Crazy Uncle Mo

And just for contrast- here’s something I’ve grown out of!

Obesity in pregnancy….


…”probably as harmful as smoking in pregnancy”.

I’ve decided for some awful reason to watch One Born Every Minute: Plus Size Mums.

Terrible idea.

It baffles me that women will slim or loose weight for vanity- usually for their own weddings. Magazines are full of “summer bikini bodies” and “get into that size 10 wedding dress” articles, and yet won’t do it for the safety of themselves and of their babies.

Women on this programme have a BMI of OVER 40. And seem to think it’s a joke.

I’m shocked.

Problems conceiving, diabetes, pre-eclampsia, hemmoraging, high blood pressure, not being able to find babie’s heartbeat or feel movement…… :-S